Don’t Change The Rule

Most difficult children are those that will change the rule to suit them. In that way, the child will be controlling the situation and for the parent this is stressful. The child will strategize their approach to change the rule and actually will insist on changing the parent rules in order to have thing their way. If you can manage this “Don’t Change the Rule” you life will be less stressful and a more positive relationship may be created.

Be consistence with your rule

When it comes to parenting, consistency is the name of the game. You have got to lay down the rules and teach your kids about the facts of life. But once you do that, do not waver. Kids notice, and they get confused and what you say is diminished in value.

Set good rules and follow them yourself

Set good rules and follow them yourself. Show your child that you mean business with the rules. So much so that you’ll abide by them, too. If your child sees you acting how you expect your child to act, they will be more likely to behave properly.

Kids will try to get you to bend on the rules

Kids will try to get you to bend on the rules. So be prepared. They will try everything in the book to get you to let them do something they know they are normally not allowed to do. But remember, if you fold, there will be plenty of other times when your child will want you to bend the rules again. And how will you handle THAT situation?

Do not bend your rule

Your child will look for your moments of weakness. They will wait until you are particularly tired or worn out. Or they will wait for a time right after they have done something really nice or really good. Then they will ask for you to bend the rules on them.

Improve your child ability to follow rules

The best thing for you to do is to stick to your guns. Make a pact with yourself that no matter how you are feeling or what the situation is, that you will stick with the rules that you have laid out. Tell yourself that you would not bend, and that will diminish the number of times that your child will ask for the rules to be bent and will improve your child’s behavior and ability to follow rules.

What happen if your child keeps changing rules?

The child that keeps changing rules will grow up trying to change the environment to fit them all the time. They will find it difficult to stay in studies or keep a job. Because studies and job has its rules, but the child can no longer change the rules to fit them.

When rules do not stay because it can be changed at all times, the child learns to ignore rules. And they won’t even know that they are ignoring the rules. For example, giving way to drivers on the right is a good road rules. Ever wonder why this is practiced by most developed nations? In Malaysia this does not happen? Simple, Malaysian drivers has learned to ignore traffic rules so much that they do not know traffic rules anymore.

Conclusion

The other thing to keep in mind is that you can change the rules. Just be consistent. If you think a particular rule needs to be changed, think it over and make an educated decision. Rules can be changes. But if you change them, go ahead and keep the new rules intact.