Are you praising your children enough?

Are your giving your children enough praise when it is well deserved or are you still criticizing? Praise, when needed, makes all the difference.

Parent need to provide many things

When we raise children we are doing our very best to prepare them to cope with and have the best life possible and there are so many things we can do to ensure this happening. We need to provide love, concern, affection, build self-esteem, and have respect for our children. We also need to accept them for the person that they are and show our approval and beyond that need to have a good understanding of discipline techniques.

Know how to praise or criticize

We need to set strict and firm limits and be consistent in handling our children and let them know our reasonable expectations of them. By the way we praise or criticize them can mean a lot in the manner in which they grow up. There is a fine line between criticizing and being negative and in giving them a negative attitude which may follow them for life. Parenting is not easy, but we can excel if we really think about raising our children in the most positive way for the most quality and positive results.

Example of a situation

For an example, say Mary wants to go visit a friend next door and you think it is getting too late and also her homework has not been finished, then you tell her no and Marie than starts yelling that she hates you and you deny her all the things she wants to do. Now sure you are very bad at the words she has used towards you because you would not let her do as she pleased. Can a parent get a child to gain control after an outburst as this one, sure she can. She might have told her, well not tonight, but if you ask early enough tomorrow afternoon and can tell me your homework has been finished then I will say yes. Then let Mary know that when you give her a decision such as this one that you expect her to behave in a mature manner. Perhaps even after Mary has came out of her room and is acting with respect tell her, well you got your anger in control and I am really proud of you and discuss the matter further.

Praise and attention to get the behaviour

We can give our child praise and attention to get the behavior that we require of them instead of always giving them negative criticism, it can be done. It can accomplish so very much more and actually cause the parent much less stress and the child will have more self-esteem.

The thing you like most - is positive

Sit down and think about the things you like most about your child, we know you love her, but the things you like about her. Sure this is hard when you have a teenager out of control, but surely you can find some good qualities. Some qualities of good in your child might be organizational skills, neatness, dedication to projects, even honesty and humor or even that they are friendly, look for the good in your child and praise the good and don’t always look for the bad.

Look for good behaviour and reinforce it

Don’t forget when a behavior is bad and we pay attention to it then we are reinforcing that behavior, so look for good behavior when it appears and give that behavior praise and admiration, you may have some positive results.

Positive Parenting

Perhaps your child is really a caring person for others such as elderly neighbour, a grand parent, etc. reinforce that quality by telling them you really admire that quality. Also your child may have a sensitivity for others, praise that quality, reinforce that quality. Try some positive parenting, IT WORKS!